They're often the catalyst that finally brings someone to a counseling office: those gut-wrenching moments in relationships that feel like you're speeding into traffic, slamming your foot on the brake even though you know it's too late. Now you're listening to the soul-wounding words you spewed in anger as they echo in your head. Or you are staring at the wreckage left behind by a fit of desperate rage that terrified you even as you were still in its grip. Or you're sitting there stunned, wondering how you could have risked so much to satisfy an appetite you thought you had under control.
A line gets crossed, relationships we took for granted are thrown in jeopardy, and we're left asking ourselves, "Where did that come from?"
Confronted with the worst of our own actions, we often find ourselves baffled by the reasons we may have--but that doesn't mean they don't exist.
"I am still every age that I have been." - Madeline L'Engle
I believe these moments are instances of our untold stories demanding to be heard--the pain that has marked our heart breaking through the life we've built to deny and escape it. Each of us carries wounds of the spirit: stories of pain that become false beliefs that hinder us, betrayals suffered that become vows meant to protect ourselves, but end up pushing others away.
If you're standing in the aftermath of something, asking yourself, "Why did I do this?"--it's time to get to know your story, for real. It can't be rewritten, but it can be re-understood. You can learn to hold your story--all of it--with compassion for yourself that will spill over into your life today and tomorrow. And you don't have to do it alone.
Life can be different.
Connect with me today and begin the journey toward loving your story.